When we think of addictions we think of being addicted to substances or behaviours. Many are addicted to cigarettes, alcohol, food, sex, gambling, computer games, shopping etc. with the consequent personal health and social problems. Addictions wreck lives and research studies tell us that it is a growing problem and that traditional solutions are not working.
We are relieved if our life experience hasn’t resulted in substance abuse but if you are not living the life of health, joy and well-being that you would like to lead, another addiction could be the cause. Are you addicted to your habitual thought patterns and the emotions that go with them?
If you see yourself as a victim you will judge the behaviour of others in this light, so that a little forgetfulness on the part of somebody else can be interpreted as a deliberate slight. If you are constantly telling yourself that it’s a “dog eat dog world” and that you have to be constantly on your guard, you will most probably, suffer and be angry on a daily basis, thus re-wiring and re-integrating that neuro-net constantly.
“Life is unfair”, and “If I don’t worry and suffer it means that I don’t care”, are common stories we tell ourselves and these stories come with the emotions of anger, frustration, fear and sadness. Neuroscientist, Joe Dispenza defines emotional addiction as a situation in which you can’t control your emotional state. He explains that heroin uses the same receptor mechanisms on our cells as our emotional chemicals do – we can be addicted to any emotion.
If you have a negative life story that you keep telling yourself and find yourself frequently anxious or angry, your physical health will be undermined as your heart rate and blood pressure rise, your muscles tense and your digestion is disburbed..
We don’t need to cling to these stories which we probably adopted in childhood. If we really have a desire to change, to have more control and lead happier lives, we need to break the thought patterns that feed the emotional addiction. A good place to start is to listen to your thoughts, like an observer and to monitor your emotions to give you an idea which stories and which emotions are frequently present. Then expand your thinking by changing your stories and practice telling yourself new ones; or just be aware of them, don’t get caught up in them. Every time we interrupt a thought process it produces a chemical response in the body and we can start to re-wire our brains with new stories that serve us.
For the tappers
Tapping on specific events that make you angry, fearful, frustrated etc. will help to shift the pattern.
Here are some examples of phrases you could adapt:
Even though I keep telling the same old negative story I accept who I am and how I feel.
Even though I don’t know how to tell a new story or which story to tell I accept who I am and how I feel
Even though I am addicted to anger I choose to release my anger now
Persistence will help and then tap on the acupoints whilst telling your new story about the way you would like yourself and your experience to be.
Jocelyn and Kristina at Trance-Formed