Mariella Frostrup confessed to a fear of the dark in The Observer newspaper. When responding to a reader, the Agony Aunt mentioned in passing, that she has “an irrational fear of the dark”. One of the biggest mailbags she’s ever received followed. She explained that “the letters weren’t just from those sensibly nervous when wandering the empty streets after midnight, but full-on phobics like myself paralysed with fear and virtually unable to sleep alone”.
Fear of the dark is a common but relatively unspoken fear which almost always originates in childhood. It is a fear that we are expected to grow out of but, as the response to Frostrup’s admission shows, many don’t.
We can’t avoid the dark and, as sleep experts tell us, we need complete darkness to get a really good night’s sleep. When we dwell on a fear the phobic responses of sweating, rapid heart rate, breathlessness and trembling can result. Frostrup consulted a hypnotherapist to help her to eliminate her fear, who, she explains, began the therapy by trying to identify the root cause. Hypnotherapy has a good track record for dealing with phobias and any feedback Frostrup gives about her therapy will be valuable to fellow sufferers.
EFT and other energy psychology modalities have also been shown to be rapid, safe, effective and long lasting when used to treat phobias. The first randomised controlled trials showing that EFT can successfully treat phobias in a single session and that gains were maintained over time, was published in the peer reviewed Journal of Clinical Psychology in 2003 and others followed in 2010 and 2011. As Dawson Church, author of The Genie in Your Genes says,”EFT’s efficacy for phobias has been demonstrated repeatedly.”
Many people who have had a phobia for a long time tend to think that it will take a long time to successfully reduce the effects or eliminate it. This is not the case. Many phobias can be cleared quickly and easily. More complex phobias which are linked to a number of episodes in the past, however, can take longer to dissolve.
For the Tappers:
To start with create a simple set-up statement related to your phobia, eg.: “Even though I have this fear of heights I deeply and completely love and accept myself”. Then work through the points with the reminder phrase – “This fear of heights”. Then see what thoughts and emotions come up and tap on those individual aspects of the fear, eliminating them one by one. It is also productive to work with the specifics of a memory linked to your phobia – eg. “Even though I was very frightened when………………………”
Jocelyn and Kristina at Trance-Formed