“You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.” David Viscott
It’s a well-known secret – Diets don’t work; Well, not for 99% of people who try them and this can lead to feelings of frustration, hopelessness, guilt and in some cases, self-loathing. The diet industry is gargantuan, turning over billions of pounds every year, but it doesn’t deliver.
Diets tell you what to eat, how much to eat and when to eat, but they don’t tell you how to handle the stress and anxiety you may have in your life that can trigger overeating.
Many people soothe themselves with food when they feel stressed.
Stress changes cortisol levels in the body which affects the production of hormones which in turn makes your body hold on to weight, especially in the abdomen. Others overeat (or choose another substance such as alcohol or a recreational drug) to distract themselves from painful emotions or because they experience some sort of lack or a feeling of emptiness. It is also common for some people to overeat as a form of self-protection; they are not hungry for food, but hungry for love or acknowledgement.
We are all also aware of negative childhood influences which can impact on our beliefs around food: “You can have dessert when you’ve eaten everything on your plate,” or “Finish your dinner. Think about the starving children in the Third World.” Sound familiar?
Our relationship with food is complex and unless the reasons why we overeat are addressed then we will continue to gain with all the attendant health problems.
If you have been struggling with your weight try the following:
Trance/visualisation to re-programme your subconscious:
Sit quietly and take three deep breaths. Imagine yourself, as vividly as you can, at your goal weight. Look at yourself in the mirror? How do you feel about how you look? How do you feel in your body? What are you wearing? Intensify the wonderful feelings.
Imagine yourself in a situation where people look at you admiringly. Hear what they are saying to you and what they are saying about you. Receive their compliments. Feel the joy of your new body. Imagine eating without worrying. Taste delicious foods, really concentrating on the smell and texture of food.
Imagine enjoying your food and being at peace with yourself while you do so.
Do this as often as possible, imagining new situations in which you can see yourself as you want to look. Bring all of your senses into the visualisation.
And for the tappers – Say out loud: “I have reached my goal weight.” and see what thoughts and feelings you experience. Do you feel safe at your new weight? Do you feel deprived, vulnerable, undeserving. All negative thoughts and feelings that arise are keys to your reasons for being unable to achieve your goal weight and you can tap on all of them.
For Example: (Reminder phrases are underlined)
Even though I won’t feel safe if I reach my goal weight, I love and accept myself.
Even though I don’t deserve to reach my goal weight I love and accept myself just the way I am.
Jocelyn and Kristina at Trance-Formed